The Movement

I always find a common theme when it comes to adoptees.  A running thread if you will, that connects us and creates a community, that we are not always aware of.  That's what's amazing to me, when I opened my eyes, and realized how many adoptees there were around me.  Some already plugged into the community, while others, like me, were completely isolated and alone.  It baffles me how I never had another adoptee friend to talk to, relate to, express my fears and questions to.....But now I am so lucky to have that community in my life.  I guess the closer I get to camp, I am more acutely aware of how important a role that plays in my life.

The theme or thread I am talking about is identity.  Some definitely more grounded and confident than others, but always an issue.  Whether it's denial or complete acceptance, there has been a question, or confusion or complete disconnect from their friends and family.  While friends and even family make "jokes" then look at you, and say,you know what I mean....or that's no offensive right?  Or thats what you guys like, right?

Identity for an adoptee will be a natural curiosity, a struggle, an issue.  I mean to grow up in an all white family and be a different race, will naturally bring up questions for you and your friends, strangers.  So what I say is embrace it.  Know that you are not alone and that you're not crazy for thinking that, or confused, or struggling with your own identity.  Reach out and talk to other adoptees, reach out to your local communities!! With the age of FB and Twitter and Blogs, we should never feel alone again.  It's just a matter of becoming aware and reaching out.....It breaks my heart when I hear I was hopeless, or I feel ugly, kids make fun of me, bully me.....I have no one to talk to.....Let us be the movement to connect those individuals who feel isolated and alone......

So it's been a while....I am doing Holt Camps again this year, and  I know that I am definitely in a different place than I was a year ago.  I realize I have a lot more to offer, and instead of going in like a freshman, I feel more like a senior.....maybe a graduate!! Lol....I am soo excited to use what I've learned in the past year to help other adoptees, navigate through this sometimes difficult journey.